So many of us come to college thinking “ohhh I’m so excited to meet new people in college, and hopefully I find someone for me!!” (guilty as charged). But once we get to school, it feels like being in the middle of a feeding ground. Every time you get your eye on someone you’re interested in, someone else is circling just as close as you are. It’s JUST. NOT. FAIR.
我们中的大多数人得到大学录取后都会认为“哦，在大学里认识新朋友好兴奋呀，当然也希望我能寻到自己的所属！”（好吧，我认罪）。但是一旦真的到了学校，感觉却像是个觅食场。每每你看到心仪的那位，总有人在旁边盘旋，他们间的距离与你们之间也差不多。这就是不公平。
How do you get through the collegiate sea of sharks to seal the deal with your current crush? You take lots of subtle actions that add up in significance.
怎么能游过这个大学鲨鱼池偷得欢心？你要步步为营、精妙为巧以取得最后的决胜。
1. Realize you’re “missing notes.”
1. 意识到你“丢了笔记”
Aka, you’re not missing notes BUT this is pretty much a guaranteed access into talking to that person. When you’re “done with them,” tell them if they ever need them too, you’re the person to go to.
也就是，其实你没有丢什么笔记，但是这可是个可以向他（她）开口的有效途径。当你和他们“结束”的时候，告诉他们如果他们任何时候需要这些笔记，记得来找你。
2. Get excited about study groups.
2. 学习小组其乐无穷
Make them. Become the best study group coordinator in your class. If you’re too freaked out to ask them for notes yet, create this group scenario and make it a point to sit next to them when everyone meets up.
组织一些，成为你课上最棒的学习小组协调员。如果你吓得还不敢问他们笔记，创办个小组方案，然后当大家都见面时故意做到他们身旁。
3. “Accidentally” bump into them at the gym/after class/at their work.
3. “意外地”在健身房、课后、他们上班的地方巧遇他们
Yes, this sounds like a little bit of stalking, but obviously if you somehow figure out part of their schedule, you should use that to your advantage and make small talk with them. “Ohhhh I didn’t know you worked here!…Ohhhh what class did you just get out of?…..Ohhhh how often do you come to the gym?” IT WORKS PEOPLE.
是的，这听起来有点像跟踪，但是很显然如果你通过什么方式知晓了他们的部分计划，你应该利用这些并且和他们简单聊聊天。“哦，我都不知道你在这里上班！……哦，你刚刚去上了什么课？……哦，你多长时间来一次健身房?”这很有效的，童鞋。
4. Ask more questions.
4. 多问问题
Some people have a tendency to dominate the conversation (on accident) or ask too many close-ended questions (those that only have 2 answer possibilities.) If you’re trying to get to know someone, make sure the conversation is reciprocal.
有些人倾向于（无意识间）主导对话或是问许多封闭式的问题（那些只有2种可能答案的问题。）如果你正想要认识某人，记得尝试让对话有来有回。
5. Close the awkward silence gap.
5. 终结尴尬的寂静岭
If you’re in the middle of a conversation and all the sudden silence happens, don’t just sit on it. End the silence by saying something like “Well, I’m happy to have one class down for the day…” or “It’s so nice outside today, it just puts me in a better mood!” Just say something that can automatically agree with that will keep conversation flowing, and try really hard to keep your “silence statements” positive!
如果你正在谈话，突然间寂静下来，千万别坐以待毙。结束这死寂，说点什么比如“当然，我很高兴今天有门课算是结束了……”或者“今天天气真不错哦，让我感觉也很好！”就说些别人总会认同的事情让对话继续下去，而且争取保持你的“寂静宣言”积极乐观。
6. Refrain from following them every social media site they’re apart of.
6. 克制自己不要在他们每个的社交网站上都关注他们
I wouldn’t be so naive as to think I’m the only one who “creeps” on people, but try really hard not to get too hardcore with it when it comes to someone you’re interested in. Just because they have a Twitter/Instagram/Facebook/Tumblr does not mean you should automatically add/follow them on every single one. That just makes you look super weird, so pick one or the other. Start off slow…
我不会天真的认为我是唯一一个悄悄“监视”别人的人，但是对于你喜欢的人尽量不要太过分。正因为他们有推特、Instagram、脸书、Tumblr并不意味着你理所应当的要在每个网站上都加他们、关注他们。那样只能让你看起来很古怪，所以选一个或者另一个。慢热开始……
7. Use caffeine to your advantage.
7. 利用咖啡因获得优势
As in, offer to get them a coffee sometime or grab one WITH them. 99.9% of all college students need caffeine at least a couple times a week to keep them going…
一旦得到机会，时常为他们带咖啡或是一起去买。 99.9%的大学生会至少一周几次的喝咖啡以保持清醒……
8. Get mutual connections.
8. 互动人脉
Whether it’s a friend, hobby, organization, etc. Because if you don’t have something major in common in college, it probably won’t go anywhere fast. If you have one of the types of mutual connections, you’ll automatically spend some time together outside of class!
不论是对于朋友、爱好、组织或是其他。因为如果在大学你和别人没有大的什么相同点，情况可就不容乐观了。如果你有互动人脉，自然你会在课外花些时间在一起。
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